Secrets of the Select

In Nice Guys and Players and Sexual Chemistry I talked about the four main categories of men in terms of how women classify them. The categories are listed as follows:

Mr. Goodbar - Select. Handsome with good looks and body build. Raw sex appeal.

Masked Men - Select. Don’t have the raw sex appeal of Mr. Goodbar. May be handsome with good body build. Main attraction is above average income and status.

Nice Guys - Non-Select. Bland and clueless. Lacks raw sex appeal. Women keep them as platonic friends.

Gamesmen - Non-Select. Lacks looks, money or sex appeal. Can get women only through tricks and persistence.

The men who women want attention from are the Mr. Goodbars and Masked Men. Now on the surface it seems like women want these men because they are handsome with lots of money. Being handsome with lots of money does influence many women. No man can go wrong by improving his physical appearance and having a well-paying job. Hold-up though. For every rule there are exceptions. There are rare Mr. Goodbars who are physically ugly, no muscles and broke. On the other hand there are rare Nice Guys who are handsome, muscular, and are millionaires. The reality is that there is only one trait that truly separates the Select from the non-select: The Selectmen are SELECTIVE as to the women they will deal with.

Selectivity is the key to having the right to be a member of the Select. Mr. Goodbar and the Masked Man don’t necessarily get the most women. Gamesmen get the most women because they play a numbers game. A Gamesmen will hit on 100 women in a month. Out of that number he may sleep with five of them. Five women a month may seem great until one realizes that the Gamesman is dealing women who tend to be ugly, overweight, skinny, crazy, and have low self-esteem. Quite frankly sex is easy to get for a man who has no real standards in a woman other than that she has a pulse.The Select get the best quality women. The Select don’t chase after women. Women chase after them. The Select tap into a woman’s desire to be with the best man. In addition since the percentage of Select men is relatively small, there is much competition for their attention. Thus this dynamic stimulates a woman’s competitive nature. Women need to feel like they won the challenge of getting a Select man to give them attention. Women like the feeling of getting a man who rejects other women.The problem with many men is that they feel they must hit on every woman they encounter. They don’t realize that women exclude them from serious consideration at this point. Women aren’t stupid. They know if a man is playing a game. Women see through these games and turn things around. That’s when a man looks up and wonders if he is such a player why are these women not rushing to be with him. These men wonder why a woman will stop going out with him on a slight provocation. For example, a woman will stop dealing with a Gamesman if he is so much as five minutes late for a date. The same woman will only go out with a Nice Guy if he willing to spend hundreds of dollars on her at the most expensive restaurant. Now when the same woman encounters Mr. Goodbar, she will let him get away with being three hours late, pay his way on a date, and cook dinner for him.The Selectmen have standards. If a woman doesn’t meet those standards, the Select will not deal with her. The Select are not pressed. They deal with women on their terms and not the woman’s. When they go to clubs, they will leave with one phone number. That phone number will be from the most attractive woman in the place. The Select believe in quality over quantity. This is why Nice Guys and Players and Sexual Chemistry focused more on self-development than on women. The Select are more concerned with living life on their terms than adjusting their personality to run game on women.

Think on this.